I was so embarrassed the other day and then realized how crazy that was!
It was when I realized I had encouraged myself…out loud…in front of people.
I was playing Pickleball the other day with some advanced beginners (we miss the ball a lot 🙂) and I was yelling to the other ladies:
“Nice hustle!”
“You almost got it!”
“So close!”
But when I ran after the ball and missed it and the words “Nice try!” came out of my mouth, I was so embarrassed.
It felt good and very natural to offer compassion and encouragement to them but not myself.
Why am I sharing this?
Because it’s a common theme in my clients. They have empathy and encourage others frequently…they can see good in others but not necessarily themselves. They tend to beat themselves up when they make a mistake, “fail”, or struggle.
And as you probably know, when you beat yourself up…when you criticize yourself…it affects your self-esteem.
And here’s where it gets really interesting….
Dr. Kristin Neff, pioneer in the field of self-compassion research, explains in her book Self-Compassion:
“Research indicates that self-critics are less likely to achieve their goals because of these sorts of self handicapping strategies. In one study, for instance, college students who were self-critics made significantly less progress toward their goals than others and also reported that they procrastinate more often.”
And a study done by Dr. Theodore A Powers showed that self-criticism is associated with underachievement and self sabotaging strategies like procrastination.
And that’s why I am hosting an exclusive training and bonus energy healing session using my 5-Part Tranquility Process™ Heal the Hesitancy: Achieve Your Dreams for members in my Limitless Love membership.
So you can start to heal the harmful hidden boundaries held within your body that cause you to criticize yourself and procrastinate. Or cause you to hesitate in conversations or in taking actions that would put you on the path forward towards your dreams…the things that are really important to you.
And according to Dr. Kristin Neff when you can show kindness toward yourself you become a force for change in the world.
And you can do that starting now!
You don’t have to wait for years to heal…you can quickly start changing your default programming from self-criticism to self-compassion today.
When you join the Limitless Love membership today for $27 per month, you will get access to:
- 2 powerful group coaching sessions a month, recorded if you can’t make it live.
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Imagine the possibilities that await you once you break free from the harmful hidden patterns held in your body causing self-criticism and procrastination and instead emphatically stand up for what is really important to you with ease!
What becomes possible for you (and the world) when you get the healing you need and achieve your dreams? Here’s the link: Limitless Love
Johnlyn
Spiritual Energy Healing 1:1 breakthrough sessions offered locally inside Sonoma Stretch and online.
