Learning What to Focus on

Imagine the freedom a person has when they donโ€™t constantly experience anxiety and depression symptoms.

In my recovery, I found that the more I analyzed and tried to figure out WHY I had the symptoms or what happened, the longer it took to recover. I felt like I was caught in a vicious cycle. After working at the subtle level/heart level I finally felt like I was moving forward in life. Analyzing did not help because the issues are held in the body and are hidden, so I could not figure them out logically.

Beliefs that we are unaware of can cause a lot of pain for us.

๐—œ ๐˜„๐—ฎ๐˜€ ๐˜‚๐—ป๐—ฎ๐˜„๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฎ๐˜:

๐Ÿ‘‰ I believed people who got angry were bad people. I believed anger was the issue, but in reality, the issue was how people handled their anger.

๐Ÿ‘‰ I blocked my own anger. A normal, healthy emotion that reveals something is not right. The emotion is just information to help me make decisions, but I blocked it.

๐Ÿ‘‰ I avoided people who seemed angry. Even if they were people that were on a mission to do good in the world, I avoided them (unknowingly.)

๐Ÿ‘‰ I tried to soothe people if they were angry. This was so normal for a lot of women in my family, it did not occur to me that it was not helpful.

๐Ÿ‘‰ I would freeze in fear if I felt anger in someone. I could keep talking and hold a conversation, but it was like a part of me had left the building!

Working at the subtle level / energetic level, cleared out some of the pain from my memories and allowed me to see the issues I had with anger and some other emotions.

We can have problems with any emotion we believe are โ€œbad.โ€

This is not something that we decide logically. We may have learned it from a caregiver or from an experience we had, and it becomes natural to avoid the emotion. Then we develop coping skills or defense mechanisms to avoid the โ€œbadโ€ emotion.

My coping skills kicked in big time recently.

I had a blip of a thought and pretty soon I was in my car on the way to buy some fast food that I just had to have right ๐—ก๐—ข๐—ช! It is amazing how powerful coping mechanisms can be.

๐Ÿ’ก I have learned so much while recovering from anxiety and depression. Craving (versus wanting) junk food and judging myself are both coping skills. I had a blip of a thought and then an emotion or a memory came up that I did not want to deal with. Whatever it was that was trying to surface, was so painful I tried to keep it hidden.

Recovery is a process. It feels like I woke up one day and had anxiety and depression symptoms but in reality, the stress built up over time and recovery happens over time as well.

The first step is to recognize when coping skills are kicking in and recognize them for what they are. Instead of analyzing why they are kicking in, we can recognize that itโ€™s a signal from the body that there is some pain buried deep within that is trying to get attention. Ideally the next step is to let the emotions flow through the body, feeling the sensations without judgment.

Maybe next time that will happen for me. If not, allowing the emotions to surface and feeling them in the body after eating the junk food works too ๐Ÿ˜Š.

When the pain remains in the body, we will continue to have issues. Physical, relationship, emotional, etc. every area of life is affected when there is pain stuck in the body.

The symptoms or cravings are simply a signal from the body saying โ€œyo dude! take care of this issue. I want to be ๐—™๐—ฅ๐—˜๐—˜!!!โ€

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